Learn How to Be a Successful Dominatrix: X Pro Tips
Becoming a Dominatrix is the dream of many women (and men) but not everyone knows how. They may have an idea (a little) but they don’t know the “technicalities”. A Dominatrix is the dominant one, the one in control of the situation, the decision maker, and whatever else you want to call it. A Dominatrix must have other people to control, otherwise, why would they be called a Domme?
For some people, being a Dominatrix is very appealing since it gives them more power to a certain extent and they may think that if they can’t be powerful in the broad scope of society, being powerful in a house or even a cramped bedroom is acceptable, rather than nothing. It can be concluded that Domme is a description of one of the hidden instincts of humans and everyone basically has a desire for power, and they are all distinguished by how far they want to go.
Okay, if you found this very interesting then keep reading!
Power Is the Key
The main characteristic of a Dominatrix is power and we all know that. Now how does that work in “real life”? How can it be implemented in everyday life? To what extent? What are the boundaries? Everyone has different answers and desires and there is nothing really RIGHT or really WRONG as long as it doesn’t infringe on the rights of others.
There are some misconceptions about the concept of Dominatrix that many people understand and by reading this article you will understand them in outline.
A Domme Is Someone with a Clear Vision and the Passion to Achieve It
This is an obvious point to explain the Dominatrix concept and a dominant definitely has a vision and the intention to realize it. He also has the ability to communicate it and the willingness to make sacrifices to make it happen. A true Dominatrix does not give up easily and a good Dominatrix is nurturing rather than intimidating. She also has a tendency to take responsibility and risks, putting those under her control first.
A Dominatrix May Have Little Real Power
Yes, it sounds strange but the fact is that “many Dommes out there” have little real power. They tend to inspire rather than coerce and thanks to their charisma, they tend to be obeyed by people within their sphere of dominance. They tend to empower people rather than exploit them and this is an example of a “positive Domme“.
A Dominatrix Is One Who Takes the Initiative
A Dominatrix is one who takes initiative. Instead of waiting until the situation is clear, he tends to want to act quickly according to her intuition. He has the courage to make decisions and is willing to take responsibility for them. He is definitely not a doubter or a coward. A hesitant and timid person just waits for someone else’s initiative and he leaves everything to that person while hoping that nothing worse will happen.
A Dominatrix Looks Forward to Her Decisions
Yes, Dommes are recognizable by nature. A true Dominatrix has her own charisma and those around her perceive her as having more ability to handle situations. He tends to be liked and respected and he, by nature, interacts socially in a way that shows he is a leader. Dominatrix is often referred to as one of those natural traits, which is not molded or created, but born.
How to Implement These Concepts into Your Sexual Life
Okay, now that you understand some basic concepts about Domme, the next question is how to implement that in your sexual life. In your bed with your partner? If you can’t even be dominant in your bed, then you are not talented at being a Dominatrix at all.
So how?
Understanding the Dynamics
First of all, you should know that being a Dominatrix means being obeyed outside of forceful orders or threats of serious consequences. It happens naturally and no one feels forced. In the context of “bed interaction,” it means your partner submits herself to you voluntarily to be treated as anything and do anything, according to your commands. If you are a Dominatrix you can probably start selling your fetish content where in the content you play the role of a Dominatrix and your wife or husband is the Sub. By the way, the Sub is dominated by the Dom.
What kind of control?
Establishing Voluntary Submission
A good Dom-Sub relationship is one that is constrained. You can’t expect a relationship where you as a Dominatrix inspire your partner to do anything. Absolutely anything with no restrictions. That’s very bad and definitely not legally correct. There are always limits to everything, including how the Dom-Sub relationship is implemented in “bed actions”.
Your sub is giving up her ego to obey you and you should respect that within the framework of the points you both have agreed on beforehand. It’s simple at first glance but can be difficult when put into practice. You may be tempted to go further which ultimately pushes you both into a worse situation. So, let’s say you have a fantasy of being a sadistic Dom, whatever it is, it should already be agreed upon by your partner, no matter how dependent she is on you. Being a Dominatrix doesn’t mean you can act without restrictions. It is “a consensus” that many people agree on, even those who are used to realizing extreme fantasies at once.
Tips for a Healthy and Respectful Dom-Sub Interaction
There are a few tips that we hope will help you realize your obsession with being a Dominatrix that your partner obeys “naturally”. They are:
– Treat your Sub as a partner and not a slave. There is no point in your fantasies, no matter how wild they are, if they are imposed on a forced person. A good sexual relationship should be based on voluntarism, even though you can call your sub slave.
– Be diligent in searching the internet for information on Dominatrix fantasies but don’t get caught up in “bad sites” that encourage you to act out.
– Understand how to make yourself look charismatic, even if you are not. At least to be obeyed by your partner. It will make you horny to know that she submits without force!
And finally, being a Dominatrix means inspiring others to do things our way but remember, whatever she does MUST be agreed to in the first place!